FAMILY CORNER The Stranger In Our House
A few months before I was born, my dad met a stranger who
was new to our small
The stranger was quickly accepted
and was around to welcome me into the world a few months later. As I grew up I never ques-tioned his place in our family. In
my young mind, each member had a special niche.
My brother, Bill, five years my
senior, was my example. Fran, my younger sister, gave me an opportunity to play
"big brother" and develop the art of teasing. My parents were
complementary instructors - mom taught me to love the Word of God, and dad
taught me to obey it.
But, the stranger was our storyteller.
He could weave the most fascinating tales. Adventures, mysteries, and comedies
were daily conversations. He could hold our whole family spellbound for hours
each evening. If I wanted to know about politics, history, or science, he knew
it all. He knew about the past, understood the present, and seemingly could
predict the future. The pictures he could draw were so lifelike that I would
laugh or cry.
He was like a friend to the whole
family. He took Dad, Bill and me to our first major league baseball
game. He was always encouraging us to see the movies and he even made
arrangements to introduce us to several movie stars. My brother and I were
deeply impressed by John Wayne in particular.
The stranger was an incessant
talker. Dad didn't seem to mind - but sometimes mom would quietly get up, while
the rest of us were enthralled with one of his stories of faraway places, and
go to her room, read her Bible and pray. I wonder now if she ever prayed that
the stranger would leave.
You see, my dad ruled our household
with certain moral convictions. But, this stranger never felt any obligation to
honor them. Profanity, for example, was not allowed in our house, not from us,
from our friends, or adults. Our longtime visitor, however, used occasional
four-letter words that burned my ears and made Dad squirm. To my knowledge, the
stranger was never confronted.
My Dad was a teetotaler who didn't
permit alcohol in his home, not even for cooking. But the stranger felt like we
needed exposure and enlightened us to other ways of life. He offered us beer
and other alcoholic beverages often. He made cigarettes look tasty, cigars
manly, and pipes distinguished.
He talked freely (probably much too
freely) about sex. His comments were sometimes blatant, sometimes suggestive,
and generally embarrassing. I know now that my early concepts, of the man-woman
relationship, were influenced by the stranger. As I look back, I believe it was
the grace of God that the stranger did not influence us more. Time after time,
he opposed the values of my parents. Yet, he was seldom rebuked, and never
asked to leave.
More than thirty years have passed
since the stranger moved in with the Young family on
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Side by Side
They lie on the table side by side
The Holy Bible and the TV Guide.
One is well worn and cherished with pride.
Not the Bible, but the TV Guide.
One is used daily to help folks decide.
No, not the Bible, but the TV Guide.
As the pages are turned, what shall they see?
Oh, what does it matter, turn on the TV;
So they open the book in which they confide.
No, not the Bible, but the TV Guide.